Boxing day

After the boring xmas day and no work at office i picked my insurance receipt. Back to work i stopped at crosswords in residency road to by "Tuesdays with Morrie" for gifting him on new year.

I reached office and went to speak to the batch of new joinees who badly needed to understand listening skills are essential. After that i went to meet my old team.They were planning to go on window shopping in garuda mall.I decided to join them . We had good calcutta victoria chat houses pani poori and KFC burger .The very famous brigade road was well lit and seemed all stars came down to that shoppers paradise. As usual the young and hep was busy shopping for the new years eve.The little girl who sold rose was still there walking across the street.

I took a bus back to K RPuram.As Kiran said if you are lucky you get a seat.I was lucky that day.
And we also had the driver fighting with a rickshawwalla for overtaking the bus at a signal.Amidst this chaos in text messaged him asking if he was at work and why he was not picking my call. On december 24 he was totally slaushed celebrating at a resort and on 25 he was with his family.
Why do u meet me.
he said" my bro in law is at home so cant come out"
Oh come on if you want to coem out you can give many reasons.I think you are scared about our relationship .You feel i am falling for u"
He said" i think we discussed about this"
I replied "Yes i dont intend to have any affair with you.All i need is your friendship.I think you are scared about you falling for me".
He said" i will talk to you later and dont be judgemental"
I had read on the same day some where-----its wonderful feeling that you can still hold some one so close though that person is away from you.

Finding that he still didnt reply back to my message i called him up.To my surprise he picked the call. He told me "dont force yourself on people".and dont jump i am comming to meet you but with our common friend.

I didnt believe he will come .I went home changed my clothes told aunty my net connection is not working and came out of the house . As promised i met him near the temple. We drove to a pub in outer ring road .This place was right in front of the office where some one who was close to me was working.
After having two rounds of drinks i asked him why was he not talking to me.He looked in to my eyes and told me i am closer to him than any one else. He is scared as to if the relationship will end up as another fling ending up in bed.He didnt want that to happen though he was attracted.His eyes spoke to me as if i knew him for years.I could see the pain from the past relationship he had and love he had for me in his deep set eyes.Yes he was close to me than any one.I felt the whole universe was with me that night.
" i dont know why girls get attracted to me there is a girl in my new office who has the same feeling and thats why i am not going there today"
Oh so how long will you run away from me from others
I know he was really distured and he told "might be my love will come back".We dont love a person but we fall in love with the circumtances wherein we meet that person
It happens only once.
we drove to his work place and he showed us the parking area where he used to walk alone thinking of her.We sang lot of malayalam and hindi songs ,old and new on that special night.

Somewhere in my mind his strong quotes kept on repeating Life is a bitch.Make yourself enviously successful and that famous Ghalib's quotes.
We ran like little kids on the flourishing well lit lawns of ecospace and sang and danced to many tunes.
Life aint so hard with freind.
My Book to him quoted----

Mashe

LOVE will be a strange term between us.I want to have a relationship stronger than love greater than friendship-------!

Mocha---Ode to Coffee Conversation &Smile

Yesterday was one of the damp days of bangalore winter.Sun never showed up to work in the silicon city.He might have his pending leaves to be availed as most of us here.

As i had to meet my grand mom and convince her i cant accompany her back home i took a day leave.
By afternoon i was free and all the way left alone too enjoy the lovely cold day. I heard this climate was due to cyclonic rain in chennai.i called one of my old friend to find out where could i get the wax to make candles.I wanted to try this as candle making was something i wanted to from long time.Well we went to the crowded rajah market near avenue road and picked up all thats required to make candle. We ate something which was indianized version of burger.This is a small shop in Rajah park where the funkiest college crowd hang out. I went back to my college days and found how simple we were as students .Also though how my kids will be when they are at their college days.the Yo style as they call it with lose fitting jeans ear pierced --looks good on most of them though. We had the Indian Bun stffed with Nippat( its a kannadiga snack which is crispy spicy made of dal and gram flour fried in oil) cheese , carrot and onion shredded.It also had some sweet sauce and green chilly paste on it. Then there is masala coke or sprite.

I was really fun to have these two combos standing in front of that shop and seeing the crowd chatting and the droplets of rain swaying down.

My friend wanted to go and sit in a peaceful place .We travelled to lavelle road through the roads that goes throgh cubbon park. I could see the old bangalore charm .Tress with blues flowers was saying thanks to the winter leafless.
We got to this coffee shop called Mocha in lavelle road.Small house converted in to a coffee hub.
Their menu card says Life can wait and take a sip.An ode to the best things in life coffee conversation and smile.Yes there life stood still as the music played on .

I stumbled on something interseting while i was watching a movie.Not an ordinary hindi movie though.Namesake -written by Jhumpa Lahiri.

The movie talks about two one great writer Nikholai Gogol and a great philosopher Joseph Campbell.
At one instance i found this reference -Finding your Bliss-Joseph Campbell.

You are asked to close your eyes and think about a moment when you were happy or in the state of rapture not being excited or thrilled.When you capture that moment in your mind think what you were doing.There you identify your bliss.

I went to this webpage of Joseph Campbell to understand the essence of this statement.
JOSEPH CAMPBELL: If you follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Wherever you are -- if you are following your bliss, you are enjoying that refreshment, that life within you, all the time.
I found out following your bliss is not about doing what you love or doing what you are told to.
It is about identifying what you truley like to do and giving yourself absolutely in the attempt to do it.

Follow your bliss." Find where it is, and don't be afraid to follow it.

It asks us tomake sure the life you are living is the one you ought to be living.

Wonderfull isnt it.How many of us can do this.